Continuing with Hilarious Video Week, we have this gem that I ran into on the Other Magazine Blog. This one falls into the “funny social commentary” category. It’s hilarious, it’s smart, it’s sexy — and it’s saying stuff that I think is important. (Video below the fold.)
Oh, and for the record: Since Joy says here that it’s important to come out and not lie about your weight, and since I think she’s right about that: I weigh about 200 pounds. I’m not sure exactly, since I don’t have a scale and don’t weigh myself regularly; but the last few times I have, I’ve either been a little below 200 pounds or a little above it.
And Joy is right. People talk about a woman weighing 200 pounds as if that were grotesquely, “fat lady in the circus” obese. I’ve even read women go on about how disgusting and blobby they were at 160. It’s totally fucked up. And it’s totally out of touch with reality.
BTW, if you want to read more of my writing on this subject, check out my essay Woman Eats Brownies, Gets Laid on my website. The quote that’s most pertinent to this video (and to the hotness of Joy — yum!) is this:
So here’s the funny thing: I have learned to convince myself of my own sexuality by a peculiar sort of proxy. Since I have terrible trouble believing in my own desirability, but no trouble at all believing in the desirability of other big women, what I wind up doing is seeking sexual affirmation, not by looking in the mirror, but by looking at other women who look like me. When I catch myself drooling over some hot babe with a nice meaty body that I’d really like to get my hands on, I remind myself that other people — especially other women — probably feel the same way about me.
Does that work for anyone else? I’m curious. If it does — or if you have other mental tricks to chase the beauty myth out of your brain and convince yourself of your hotness — I’d love to know about them.