NOM Looks for ‘Victims’ of Gay Parents


A court has released previously sealed internal documents from the National Organization for Marriage and it includes a 2009 strategy document with items they were looking to fund. Included in those items was someone to find “victims” of gay parents that they could use to discredit same-sex marriage and adoption.

The line item was for $60,000 to cover salary and benefits for an “outreach coordinator” whose job it would be to “identify children of gay parents willing to speak on camera.” Did they hire that person? Did they not find any “victims”? Surely if they had found some, they would have trumpeted it far and wide.

The other big revelation is that NOM explicitly strategized to drive a wedge between gay people and other minority groups.

“The strategic goal of this project is to drive a wedge between gays and blacks—two key Democratic constituencies. Find, equip, energize and connect African American spokespeople for marriage, develop a media campaign around their objections to gay marriage as a civil right; provoke the gay marriage base into responding by denouncing these spokesmen and women as bigots…” …

“The Latino vote in America is a key swing vote, and will be so even more so in the future, both because of demographic growth and inherent uncertainty: Will the process of assimilation to the dominant Anglo culture lead Hispanics to abandon traditional family values? We must interrupt this process of assimilation by making support for marriage a key badge of Latino identity – a symbol of resistance to inappropriate assimilation.”

NOM delivers a predictably illogical response:

The National Organization for Marriage (NOM) was formed in 2007 and has worked extensively with supporters of traditional marriage from every color, creed and background. We have worked with prominent African-American and Hispanic leaders, including Dr. Aveeda King, Bishop George McKinney of the COGIC Church, Bishop Harry Jackson and the New York State Sen. Reverend Rubén Díaz Sr., all of whom share our concern about protecting marriage as the union of one man and one woman.

Gay marriage advocates have attempted to portray same-sex marriage as a civil right, and the voices of these and many other leaders have provided powerful witness that this claim is patently false. Gay marriage is not a civil right, and we will continue to point this out in written materials such as those released in Maine. We proudly bring together people of different races, creeds and colors to fight for our most fundamental institution: marriage.

Let’s put this into a syllogism:

Proponents says same-sex marriage is a civil right.
Some members of other minority groups are opposed to same-sex marriage.
Therefore, same-sex marriage is not a civil right.

I’ll take non sequiturs for $1000, Alex.

Comments

  1. Taz says

    Dear Dr. Aveeda King, Bishop George McKinney, and Bishop Harry Jackson:

    Oh, I say and I say it again, ya been had!
    Ya been took!
    Ya been hoodwinked!
    Bamboozled!

  2. dingojack says

    Taz – or even:

    “… Gettin’ robbed
    Gettin’ stoned
    Gettin’ beat up
    Broken boned
    Gettin’ had
    Gettin’ took
    I tell you folks
    It’s harder than it looks… “

    Dingo

  3. MikeMa says

    For $10k, I’ll find them a pile of children of straight parents willing to share their victimization.

  4. Chiroptera says

    Well, I’m sure that there has to be a handful of abused children whose parents happened to be gay. I’m surprised these clowns couldn’t find any of those; they must be pretty incompetent. Or maybe the jets and private dog mansions were more expensive than they thought. Who knows?

    At any rate, I doubt that gay parents are abusive at a rate that is statistically higher than that of non-gay parents.

  5. says

    Victims of gay parents, eh? Funny how they didn’t find any. Besides that, I would guess that for every bad gay parent there are at least more than four bad straight parents (and what about bi parents–erased again?), which means that if a few bad apples spoil the bunch, then NOM would have made an own goal by showing how bad straight marriage is for children.

  6. Abby Normal says

    I seem to recall a couple years ago NOM was pushing a story about a lesbian couple who were arrested for abusing their foster children. The story never got much traction. Perhaps they tried and then abandon the idea when they found the tactic to be ineffective.

  7. raven says

    For $10k, I’ll find them a pile of children of straight parents willing to share their victimization.

    There are at least millions of those. One of my college friends had a horrific upbringing at the hands of a stepfather.

    She died long ago now of drug and alcohol abuse.

  8. raven says

    What is really easy to find are escapees from toxic xian cults. There are millions of those.

    They usually describe themselves as escapees or “survivors”.

    It’s estimated that the number of inactive, apathetic, or gone Mormons outnumber the church goers by 3 to 1.

    Since NOM is a Catholic front, perhaps rounding up a few hundred survivors of pedophile priests might be a worthy cause.

  9. says

    Chiroptera: “I doubt that gay parents are abusive at a rate that is statistically higher than that of non-gay parents.”

    If anything I would expect the rate to be less, since gay couples are more likely to have to go out of their way to have children, whether by adoption or surrogacy etc (except for children that they had in previous relationships before they realised they were gay) and therefore their children are more likely to have been wanted and consciously planned for.

  10. michaelgaribaldi says

    Kind of hard to do since gay parents tend to go through a selection process in order to get handed victims of straight parents.

    And if you want to look for victims of religious parents, there’s any number of recovery groups you can easily access on the internet.

  11. michaelgaribaldi says

    It’s also worth adding that it’s absolutely breathtaking, the incomprehensible malevolence of these people. This is what motivates them to get out of bed every morning? Absolutely nothing but repressed homosexuality and internal religious conflict can explain it; either that or a general pathological desire to beat up on a minority. In either case they need to be sealed in the lowest dungeon of some god forsaken underfunded state mental institution and get rolled out from time to time for electroshock. Maybe then they can get released after 10 years after having learned a new socially useful skill such as finger-painting.

  12. Chris from Europe says

    Given the involvement of the LDS, maybe we should discuss their success at driving children into suicide and other aspects of their parenting.

  13. Michael Heath says

    Chiroptera:

    I doubt that gay parents are abusive at a rate that is statistically higher than that of non-gay parents.

    boselecta responds:

    If anything I would expect the rate to be less, since gay couples are more likely to have to go out of their way to have children, whether by adoption or surrogacy etc (except for children that they had in previous relationships before they realised they were gay) and therefore their children are more likely to have been wanted and consciously planned for.

    I can think of one speculated and current factor that might somewhat offset boselecta’s speculation. And another factor that would advance the benefits of gay parents.

    First the latter; I assume that since gay parents who either adopt or purposefully have a child while in a gay relationship are higher on the socio-economic scale relative to all heterosexual parents. That should create an even superior disparity for GBLT parents. However there’s probably some increase in abuse by gay parents who were previously in a dysfunctional heterosexual relationship that yielded children.

    As the rate of GLBTs who never go in the closet goes up, along with those who are who come out at an ever-decreasing age, this last speculated factor should eventually effectively disappear. But I wouldn’t be surprised if it exists now.

  14. Sastra says

    We must interrupt this process of assimilation by making support for marriage a key badge of Latino identity – a symbol of resistance to inappropriate assimilation.”

    Interesting. This seems to be their basic strategy for promoting religion, too: make belief in God a key badge of a person’s identity, a symbol of resistance to assimilation into ‘worldly materialism.’ That way they can say that atheists who criticize or make fun of religion are guilty of bigotry.

  15. cptdoom says

    Studies consistently show that kids of gay couples range from as good as to better off than kids of straight parents.

    If you got a chance to watch the livestream or tape of Dustin Lance Black’s play “8” earlier this month, there is an absolutely hysterical moment when the “expert” for the anti-gay side not only has to admit the country would be fairer and more “American” when same-sex marriages have the same rights, but also offers up that children raised by gay/lesbian parents often do better than straight counterparts, because of the time & expense for gay/lesbian parents, as well as the screening they undergo when they adopt.

    The taped reading is still available via YouTube, but I believe it’s only up until next week.

  16. interrobang says

    There’s also the factor that given how hard it is to adopt these days, and the extra hurdles same-sex couples must go through to adopt, those that are successful really, really want their kids. It’s perishin’ easy for straight couples to wind up with kids, wanted, unwanted, or “meh.” (There’s actually this baffling phenomenon called “pregnancy apathy”; look it up.) Any pair of straight idiots can do it, and they usually do.

  17. bananacat says

    My cousin was a “victim” of a gay parent who was socially coerced into a straight marriage. He’s the perfect argument for marriage equality. Life would have been better for everyone if his gay father had not had to marry a woman. In my case, I would have been better if my parents had just never married at all.

  18. gwangung says

    We must interrupt this process of assimilation by making support for marriage a key badge of Latino identity – a symbol of resistance to inappropriate assimilation.

    White people imposing a feature on Latino identity. As if they had the power…

    Really racist if you think about it.

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