CNN has a debate over the contraception mandate and one of the entries is by Valerie Pokorny, who is “actively involved in marriage preparation programs, natural family planning instruction and chastity education in the Archdiocese of San Antonio, Texas.” Prepare to have your jaw agape at her presumptuous irrationality. The title — “Contraception denigrates me as a woman” — should give you some idea of what you can expect.
Indeed, throughout history woman has been at a sore disadvantage in terms of having the freedom to thrive and contribute her many, varied gifts to society.
This is why I find the case made by our current administration in regard to the Health and Human Services mandate so difficult to swallow.
The Obama administration’s primary talking point on this issue is that “Every woman should be in control of the decisions that affect her own health.”
I agree. 100 percent.
But from there, the defense sounds like slick advertising for the contraceptive industry: To be a healthy woman, you need contraception. All the successful women use it. You can’t live without it.
Should I so easily accept the implication that I need to alter a part of myself that’s working properly in order to be free or fulfilled? I find this premise tremendously offensive. To me, this exerts pressure tantamount to that felt by women who purge after eating to attain or maintain a particular body image. It encourages women to think that their value is somehow intrinsically tied to how sexually available and desirable they are.
This is simply bizarre. She actually seems to think that women use birth control only because men want them to be “sexually available” to them without the risk of pregnancy to tie them down. Presumptuous much? How about the tens of millions of women who use birth control who are in committed relationships and just don’t want to have a child, either right now or ever? They do not seem to exist in Valerie Pokorny’s world. Nor do women who choose all on their own to be “sexually available” with partners of their own choosing, not because a man wants them to be.
I thought the whole moral obligation to fulfill a husband’s sexual needs was a thing of the past… but alas, it’s been repackaged for a new secular generation. Women are still evaluated heavily on the basis of their uninhibited sexual availability, which contraception ensures precisely by severing women from their fertility…
My fertility is not a disease. It does not need to be repressed, manipulated, or rejected. It ought to be accepted and respected accordingly, by individuals and by society as a whole. And if that means exercising a bit of self control now and then, well, that’s a hell of a lot more dignified than saying, “Eh, we got this pill that makes self control unnecessary. I want pleasure now. Let’s get it on!”
Sorry, but you’re the one still stuck in the past here. Women choose to sever themselves from their fertility, some temporarily and some permanently. That’s their choice. You don’t like the idea of doing so? Then don’t do it. Your body, your choice. But stop pretending that the only reason any other woman would choose to do so is because men have turned them into “sluts” for their own sexual pleasure.