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Oct 17 2012

Living With Depression: Trust

I’m going to do a series of posts on what it’s like to live with chronic depression, beyond the DSM symptoms that you always hear about. I want to help people understand. I’m in a particularly good position to do this now because my depression is technically in remission, which means that I no longer …

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Sep 24 2012

On Taking People’s Word For It (Or, When Not to Argue)

“You’re not really depressed, you just get sad sometimes.” “You’re not really a lesbian, you’ve just had some bad experiences with men.” “You’re not really an atheist, you’re just questioning your faith. You’ll find God again.” Why do people say these things? Everyone I ask seems to have a story about a friend or family …

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May 16 2012

What You're Really Saying When You Say that Suicide is "Selfish"

I’m still thinking about the Chet Hanks suicide thing from last week and the various responses to it that I saw online. Specifically, I cited two comments that referred to suicide as “selfish.” “Selfish” has to be one of the most common adjectives people think of when thinking about suicide. Those of us who are …

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Apr 20 2012

Why I Think Proselytism is Wrong

The whole controversy on our campus surrounding Cru and their “I Agree with Markwell” campaign has gotten me thinking about proselytism. (Proselytism, in case you don’t know, is just a fancy word for trying to convert people to another religion.) In my view, proselytism is wrong. I have two foundations for this view. One of …

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Apr 13 2012

My opinion is not a personal insult to you.

[Snark Warning] It never ceases to amaze me how the act of expressing an opinion opens you up to the most outlandish assumptions about your personality. Good girls, I know, don’t blog. Or at least, they don’t blog about anything substantial, and they definitely don’t do it using their real names. Blogging about your personal …

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Mar 20 2012

On Coercion and a Different Social Ethic

One of my favorite bloggers once wrote a post about the idea of “consent culture” as an alternative to rape culture. After describing various ways to help create a culture of consent surrounding sex, she brilliantly expands the idea to social interactions in general: I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the …

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Jan 10 2012

You Don't Need Alcohol

[This is my first column for the Daily Northwestern, NU's student newspaper. I can't find the link on their website so I'm not linking to it, but here's the full piece.] You don’t need alcohol. Wait, hear me out. You really don’t need it. Before I came to college, I obviously expected that there’d be …

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Jan 05 2012

"I really want to screw you, but you have so much baggage."

A guy actually said that to me once. He may have been the only person I’ve ever encountered who was willing to verbalize his shallowness and ignorance, but he’s far from the only one who thinks that people need to be perfect before you can get involved with them. That idea runs rampant in our …

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Dec 28 2011

My Facial Expression is None of Your Business

[Snark Warning] I am not a cheerful person. I don’t wear my happiness on my face, and I do not consider it my moral duty to brighten the day for perfect strangers. I am an introvert despite the fact that I’m usually pretty friendly and sociable when spoken to. Most of the time, I inhabit …

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Dec 21 2011

Death to Debbie Downer

I propose a moratorium on the term “Debbie Downer.” “But whyyyy?” you might argue. “Those negative people are so annoyinggg!” Perhaps. But I think we need to stop using that phrase, for several reasons. The first thing I think of when I hear the phrase “Debbie Downer” in one of the contexts it’s most commonly …

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