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Category Archive: dating/relationships

Jan 26 2013

Feminism Is Not About Who Pays The Bill

So, I know that I’m really young and spent most of the feminist movement as a mere wish in my mother’s brain (well, hopefully). But I’m really confused about why an entire generation of men seems to have heard the message of feminism not as “Women want the same rights and opportunities as men” or …

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Dec 30 2012

Writing A Better Love Story: On Pop Culture That Romanticizes Unhealthy Relationships

Imagine this story. You meet someone you really like and fall for them immediately. They’re attracted to you too and the sex is great. But you want something more serious and they drag their feet. They’re emotionally detached, they forget to call, they make you do all the work of moving the new relationship along. …

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Nov 24 2012

There Is No Universal Definition Of “Cheating”

Every time I read a women’s website or magazine these days, I come upon a headline that demands to know, “IS THIS CHEATING?!?!” Is sending flirty Facebook messages to someone else cheating? Is sending them nude pics cheating? Is flirting cheating? Is there a chance you could actually be cheating on your boyfriend and not even realize it?

Oct 26 2012

Living With Depression: Openness

Earlier I decided to write a series of posts about depression beyond the DSM diagnosis. The first post was about trust. Here’s the second. Throughout my life, I have been exposed to two diametrically opposed views on openness–how much people should share with their partners, friends, and acquaintances about themselves. The first view, which my family taught …

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Oct 25 2012

Sarah Silverman and Mandatory Childbearing

Some wingnut thinks Sarah Silverman is useless as a woman unless she gets married and pops out some babies. I respectfully disagree.

Sep 18 2012

How to Have Sex Like They Do in the Movies

My recent post on consent got me thinking about how open communication about sex isn’t just important because it establishes consent, but also because it’s what makes sex great. A man meets a woman–it’s always a man and a woman. He is tall and handsome–she, thin and beautiful. He cracks a witty pickup line with …

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Sep 17 2012

1 + 1 = 2: Why I'm Not Looking for My "Other Half"

I was listening to music today when I noticed something odd about the lyrics to many of the songs: Give me a reason to fall in love Take my hand and let’s dance Give me a reason to make me smile Cause I think I forgot how (Meiko)   Who doesn’t long for someone to …

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Sep 17 2012

1 + 1 = 2: Why I’m Not Looking for My “Other Half”

I was listening to music today when I noticed something odd about the lyrics to many of the songs: Give me a reason to fall in love Take my hand and let’s dance Give me a reason to make me smile Cause I think I forgot how (Meiko)   Who doesn’t long for someone to …

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Aug 12 2012

Is Casual Sex Intrinsically Demeaning?

Many well-intentioned people decry casual sex (or hooking up, or what have you) and argue that there’s something inherently demeaning about it–that you’re just letting the other person use your body and then toss it aside, that you’re letting them disrespect you. It’s worth noting that, to these people, it’s only the woman in the …

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Jun 22 2012

"There are no hot girls at Northwestern."

The other day at a certain user-submitted news website, a new Northwestern student was asking for advice about “the party scene” at our school. He also inquires about the attractiveness of the “females” at our school (I think he means “women”), and several dudebros inform him not to get his hopes up. One writes, “No …

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