Earlier I decided to write a series of posts about depression beyond the DSM diagnosis. The first post was about trust. Here’s the second. Throughout my life, I have been exposed to two diametrically opposed views on openness–how much people should share with their partners, friends, and acquaintances about themselves. The first view, which my family taught …
Category Archive: dating/relationships
Oct 25 2012
Sarah Silverman and Mandatory Childbearing
Some wingnut thinks Sarah Silverman is useless as a woman unless she gets married and pops out some babies. I respectfully disagree.
Sep 18 2012
How to Have Sex Like They Do in the Movies
My recent post on consent got me thinking about how open communication about sex isn’t just important because it establishes consent, but also because it’s what makes sex great. A man meets a woman–it’s always a man and a woman. He is tall and handsome–she, thin and beautiful. He cracks a witty pickup line with …
Sep 17 2012
1 + 1 = 2: Why I'm Not Looking for My "Other Half"
I was listening to music today when I noticed something odd about the lyrics to many of the songs: Give me a reason to fall in love Take my hand and let’s dance Give me a reason to make me smile Cause I think I forgot how (Meiko) Who doesn’t long for someone to …
Sep 17 2012
1 + 1 = 2: Why I’m Not Looking for My “Other Half”
I was listening to music today when I noticed something odd about the lyrics to many of the songs: Give me a reason to fall in love Take my hand and let’s dance Give me a reason to make me smile Cause I think I forgot how (Meiko) Who doesn’t long for someone to …
Aug 12 2012
Is Casual Sex Intrinsically Demeaning?
Many well-intentioned people decry casual sex (or hooking up, or what have you) and argue that there’s something inherently demeaning about it–that you’re just letting the other person use your body and then toss it aside, that you’re letting them disrespect you. It’s worth noting that, to these people, it’s only the woman in the …
Jun 22 2012
"There are no hot girls at Northwestern."
The other day at a certain user-submitted news website, a new Northwestern student was asking for advice about “the party scene” at our school. He also inquires about the attractiveness of the “females” at our school (I think he means “women”), and several dudebros inform him not to get his hopes up. One writes, “No …
Feb 23 2012
When Tough Love Becomes Abusive
Okay, so, I realize I’m showing up rather late to the laptop-shooting party, but I didn’t want to let this bit of news pass by without writing about my reaction to it–not only to the incident itself, but to the various responses I’ve seen to it from the public. If you don’t know what I’m …
Feb 07 2012
Dating Dangerously
Three weeks before my senior prom, I asked my best friend to be my date. I was sure he had feelings for me and I wanted him to know that I returned them, and that I hoped that things would go farther. Awesome! I thought. Asking people out is so easy! Not so fast. At …







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