Thug In Velvet – Revisited

Around a decade ago there was a watershed in Indian culture.

We saw a concept come about in India and abroad.

It was called the New Indian Male. The very idea of the New Indian Male was a gentleman. He wore clothes that fit and wasn’t picked out by his mother. He understood fashion. He was gentler, kinder and indeed “more in touch with his feminine side”. His image on the big screen and in populist media was not one of the country boy or poor, but a middle class hero and his actions resonated the most with that demographic. In the minority of India that is Upper Middle Class this may hold true. More men broke gender roles and cooked, cleaned and raised children and this allowed more women to break out of those traditional roles and do non-traditional roles such as working. More men cleaned up themselves and after themselves. But what happened? Why have we shifted out of that? [Read more…]

Bear Grylls – Women in the Woods

Bear Grylls has a new show in the making and it’s got women a bit hacked off.

The Island Of Lost Blokes will see 12 hardy souls join Grylls in trying to survive on a desert island using just their instincts and ingenuity.

12 Hardy Man Souls that is. Channel 4 didn’t quite think women would be up to the challenge or be willing to participate. [Read more…]

Age of Kali – Hotel Relax? Not Really

Earlier today I was told that I should stop representing India as a terrible place for women. The rationale is simple. The more people like me speak out against things that are wrong with India the more it validates racists.

It’s simple? If they didn’t have this to whinge about they would find something else to complain about. My personal favourite is all Indians stink of curry (You say it like it’s a bad thing). [Read more…]

Female Genital Mutilation – An Expansion to the Primer

This is not safe for work, this is not safe for life, this is not safe in general. The following contains images of FGM and vaginas. If you do not wish to see these then please do not read further.

What follows is an image and a discussion on Female Genital Mutilation. It is a complication of the procedure.

When we discuss why a medical condition should be made public particularly of genitals we forget that while people are squeamish, many will say that the usage of squeamish images is insulting to the victims.

How on earth are we to discuss a problem. How are we to discuss a procedure. How are we to discuss the damage caused.

How are we to do ANY of these things without knowing what it looks like? Hence my warning.

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An Islamic Defence of FGM

FGM is on the rise in the USA, so I figured I should resurrect an old piece of fundamentalism. The usage of Islam to defend Female Genital Mutilation is a major stumbling block in achieving progress.

This is a major issue with fighting the practice, however let us be clear here. The practice is also found among Christian communities, not just Muslims. It’s just that Islam has a method of defending culture.

And the defence of the practice is frankly reprehensible. What we do know is the Koran NOT prescribing this as a novel thing. We know the practice pre-dates Islam and that the Koran merely maintains the Status Quo in the same way that the Bible promotes the Status Quo of slavery. [Read more…]

Female Genital Mutilation – A Nuanced Look at the First Trial

Dr Dhanuson Dharmasena is one of the first people to be charged in the UK under a landmark case allowing for the prosecution of people involved in aiding and abetting the crime of female genital mutilation.

Female Genital Mutilation is not a good practice. I have long stood against it. However I have had issues with the UK’s laws with regards to Female Genital Mutilation. Doctors were told to fight the practice with little or no training or worse? No idea of how to deal with children at risk.

The point is? We don’t want to take children away from parents. We don’t want young girls to get cut. We also don’t want parents to not bring their kids to see the doctor for fear of being arrested.

But that being said? Prosecutions need to occur. [Read more…]

Female Genital Mutilation – A Landmark

Female Genital Mutilation is not a good practice. I have long stood against it. However I have had issues with the UK’s laws with regards to Female Genital Mutilation. Doctors were told to fight the practice with little or no training or worse? No idea of how to deal with children at risk.

The point is? We don’t want to take children away from parents. We don’t want young girls to get cut. We also don’t want parents to not bring their kids to see the doctor for fear of being arrested.

But that being said? Prosecutions need to occur. [Read more…]

A Voice for Me – Fake Rape and Not Helping Anyone

One of the problems with the MRA community is that the genuine issues that affect men tends to get ignored in exchange for simply bashing a straw (wo)man. It’s easy to dismiss it as the last hurrah of the privileged losing their privileges.

It was the victim of a “fake rape” accusation. There are two opinions as to why I was accused of raping a woman at TAM (an Event I Never Attended). One it was a casual effort to silence me among the myriad other demands to keep me quiet. Or two it was an argument being made against PZ Myers and I was just “collateral damage”. A fair target for many since they insist my problem is not my statements but the soapbox I stand on.

And I pointed out that this accusation didn’t help anyone. It didn’t help the victims of rape. It didn’t help me. It didn’t help the victims of fake rape accusations. All it did was add a case where I had to defend myself against frankly slanderous comments made under the aegis of anonymity. Women would be told how this case was another example of fake rape that is “so common”. And male victims of fake rape would be harassed as much. [Read more…]