A Voice for Me – Fake Rape and Not Helping Anyone

One of the problems with the MRA community is that the genuine issues that affect men tends to get ignored in exchange for simply bashing a straw (wo)man. It’s easy to dismiss it as the last hurrah of the privileged losing their privileges.

It was the victim of a “fake rape” accusation. There are two opinions as to why I was accused of raping a woman at TAM (an Event I Never Attended). One it was a casual effort to silence me among the myriad other demands to keep me quiet. Or two it was an argument being made against PZ Myers and I was just “collateral damage”. A fair target for many since they insist my problem is not my statements but the soapbox I stand on.

And I pointed out that this accusation didn’t help anyone. It didn’t help the victims of rape. It didn’t help me. It didn’t help the victims of fake rape accusations. All it did was add a case where I had to defend myself against frankly slanderous comments made under the aegis of anonymity. Women would be told how this case was another example of fake rape that is “so common”. And male victims of fake rape would be harassed as much. [Read more…]

There Is A Reason We Think You Are Harming Men

There is a sub-sect of the MRA movement in which resides the Pick Up Artist.

See, the problem with MRA is that they forget about Men’s Rights and go straight onto bashing women’s rights. There are many men who fight for the rights of men who don’t do this, but a lot of men would rather bash women than help men. They begrudge women setting up shelters for abused women but do not show the same solidarity. Their haunts are cloistered worlds of slow bigotry. From the more “moderate” places like A Voice for Men where such charming denizens were found happily cooing along to their writers attacking women’s rights in Afghanistan and India to places like the Spearhead where there is a fairly large smattering of racism or people like Judgy Bitch who was outright blaming rape victims for their rapes. In this there is a sub-sect of people who are Pick Up Artists who think that there is a specific method for getting laid simply by following certain steps.

Yes we can all agree there are issues with being a man that are not spoken about clearly and yes a lot of that is men going “dude! Stop being a wuss” rather than women saying that.

But there are some statements that are so unbelievably vile that one cannot even fathom WHY or WHAT logic drove them to say such a horrific thing.

Now here is the thing. I think Roosh and the writer Tuthmosis are manufacturing controversy here. I place the link out of my sense of fair play although it gives me no sense of pleasure to do so. [Read more…]

No One Will Read This

Again with the Thunderfoot? Well this is mainly out of pique. It’s no secret that I found his latest two videos naught but stupid. If Thunderfoot thinks we are telling women to not take precautions to avoid casual rape then he simply is constructing a straw man. We however aren’t blaming them for what happens if they take some precautions and still get raped because we know that some of the “precautions” are impossible to follow.

No, what we want is to point out that women have to take precautions that we don’t and that’s unfair and sucky and ineffective. Pointing that out got me this from “Adam Who”

I just made you waste 20 minutes of your time. Just look at all non-skeptical, presumptuous nonsense you just posted which nobody will read.

Funny thing is? Adam Who is right. People rarely listen to us and quite honestly the current environment in atheism seems designed to argue over moronic things resulting in a dedicated group of individuals who would damage and harm any attempt to do anything if by some chance you are associated with Freethought Blogs.

The funny thing is? Among all the anti-vax, among all the quacks, among all the pro-lifers, religious fundies and even the goddamn animal lib. Not one group has tried to shut me up or dedicated to ignoring what I say as thoroughly and in a method as coordinated as atheists and skeptics. So called skeptics that is. So what triggered him? [Read more…]

Age of Kali – Thunderfoot – All India Backchod, Rape and Asking For It

Some people really don’t get why something is bad or harmful or not helpful to everyone involved.

Thunderfoot… for those who are unaware was and indeed still is a big deal among the atheist community. Back in the great creationist wars, he was in effect the biggest anti-creationist on the Youtubes.

A big deal all in all.

But then came his sudden and (IMHO) inexplicable assault on feminism and women in general. From his brief stint at FTB before I joined up resulting in one weird interview and the beginning of the Anti-FTB malarky to his frankly one sided take on Anita Sarkeesian.

But this?

There are many things wrong here. [Read more…]

A Voice for Me – Pet Rock

[warning]TW – Rape, Violence, Acid Throwing – This is a labour of hate. This is a gigantic rant over 8 hours in the making. This charts the absolute depths A Voice for men has plummeted in a recent article. It is long. It is not fun. It is terrible. I joke about it but I have to otherwise we will spend 18,600 words weeping at the heartlessness of the author.[/warning]

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I Get Male – Beta Blocker

I have generally stayed out of the whole anti-FTB malarky unless it lands on my door. For those who are unaware? There are a sizeable group of people on Reddit and a forum called the Slymepit who actively dislike pretty much anything Freethought Blogs does.

On Reddit this manifests as “guaranteed downvotes” to any posts that are hosted here.

This has manifest in some very bizarre posts. I had my “Stand on the street and provide healthcare for protesters during the Indian Rape Riot” reports downvoted into oblivion. Just a few days ago Rock Beyond Belief had a post about why DOMA needs to be repealed and what it meant to a soldier with a same sex partner who served. Also down voted.

Why? Well either r/atheism’s “protest” by down voting blog content is so “principled” that it is willing to stick to the notion that blog posts are less important than memes even when down voting actual useful content from people such as Rock Beyond Belief or it just doesn’t like the platform.

TIme and time again I have been told that I only blog for the money (All $1.5 to $2 a day) or that I am some sort of feminazi ruining atheism by my actions (If anything I would have thought people would be happy to have me represent atheism).

And so with that we come to some hate mail. [Read more…]

Steubenvile and Serena

[warning]TW – Rape[/warning]

Sometimes you run across something vile hidden in something benign.

Serena Williams is a role model for millions of young girls particularly those of colour who often rarely played any sport let alone tennis which for a long time was treated as “posh” (It certainly was when I was growing up. It was football or rugby. Cricket was rare and for the summer.). [Read more…]

Hags of Lag – Tauriq Moosa Wishes To Usurp Us

We were doing this before it was “cool”…

That upstart newbie Tauriq Moosa has the audacity to demand our help on his blog! What is he? Lazy! Honestly!

So he is jumping on the sexism in gaming bandwagon. I am sure we have heard it all before. So what do I want you to do?

On no accounts must you click on this link. Which link you ask? This link right here. Not clicking on it? Good!

On no accounts must you go there if you have anecdotes playing games and have stories of abuse in the gaming industry or community. On no accounts must you go there if you have worked in games. All he wants from you is your anecdotes. And who wants to be listened to!

Bah Humbug! Hags of Lag was doing it before it was cool…