Continue reading »]]> Judgy Bitch responded to my post on her “slut shaming victims” of the current paedophilia scandal in the UK and I figured it needed a response within a post.

Very interesting and thought provoking response. Thank you.

I would like to clarify a few things, if I may.

First of all, I used the pictures of the underage girls who look wildly different from their actual ages to illustrate the rationale behind the mistaken age defense that has been enacted by some states in the US.

However the article in question is in regards to the current scandal where  a variety of British celebrities turned out to be paedophiles having abused children often using their ties as presenters of children’s TV to acquire victims. Now you may not consider some of these children as victims but they are.

I don’t believe I ever claimed that any of the British celebrities were confused by the ages of the young women, not because I don’t think that’s possible, but rather because I simply haven’t studied the cases in any kind of detail.

Yet you chose to link a variety of British articles from the Daily Mail to your article. Either you didn’t read the articles you were quoting or you chose to use them knowing the context.

Whatever the reasons for you to support the actions of child molesters the fact remains the individuals whose examples you used were trusted people by an entire nation who abused the trust they had.

You state that when a 14 year old expresses a desire for consensual sex with a powerful man, the answer to that is always no.

Why is it no?

Because 14 year old kids are “fucking stupid” and shouldn’t be allowed control over such decisions because they are 14 and stupid. Now you may think you were pretty smart as a 14 year old but chances are you were stupider than you are now. 14 year old kids don’t have the development to grasp the issues with regards to sex. For the love of god, 14 year old kids treat babies like dolls. Why? Because they are still kids.

I understood surgery aged 15, doesn’t mean I should be given a scalpel.

It’s no for the same reason a 13 year old or a 12 year old or a 11 or a 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1 year old cannot give permission for sex. Because they lack the mental capacity.

Because it’s illegal? Well, lowering the age of consent laws with the two provisions for age gap and mistaken age would address that.

Just because something is legal doesn’t make it right.

I mean we can solve drink driving by legalising it but that just lets people get away with drinking and driving.

Because it’s immoral? How so? Do you not believe 14 year olds are capable of agency? Or desire?

Because the desires of a 14 year old are not tempered with common sense. If 18 year olds regularly fuck up hard due to a lack of life experience then a 14 year old is more prone to fucking up. A 14 year old may desire ice cream for lunch however it is a bad parent that gives in to that desire.

And we don’t punish 14 year olds. We punish the adults who take advantage of them. Because 14 year olds are idiots.

Because it’s exploitive? Unnatural? Why is the answer always no?

Yes. Because 14 year olds are not fully matured as human  beings and cannot make decisions with a full understanding of why that decision is good or bad. Hence it is exploitative. If we let 14 year olds buy cars we would see them exploited. They are also appalling decision makers if not for parents.

So the answer is NO.

I was struck particularly by your observation that my arguments could be used to reframe men as natural pedophiles, the definition of which depends on the age of consent, no? Or do you have another definition you are using? That is very troubling, indeed.

Yet it is a correct observation where you assume men in power which is the whole “Alpha Male” bullshit flogged by people… that these men cannot say no to any sex offered to them.

Except they can and do. There are countless celebrities with hundreds of thousands of young fans who don’t fuck them. Even if 14 year olds throw themselves at you the correct thing to do as a responsible adult, decent human being and sensible person is to not say “Well! She started it!”

I am focusing more on the assertion that young woman DO have agency, particularly over their own desires, and that they CAN be held accountable for their actions. Obviously, there is tremendous variation in levels of maturity between individuals, but can you not agree that some very young women are rather mature and perfectly capable of handling sexual desire?

Young girls. No they are not. Statistically speaking most young girls are not mature. The very existence of Beiber Fever and Twilight scuttles your argument.

I’ll point you to Nikki McWatters for an example of that. And she is just one.

Indeed. However if Nikki McWatters was raped I have no doubts that you would be dancing with glee about her slutty ways and how she was trying to “fuck upwards” or acquire some alpha male dick or something equally vile.

I did not grow up in Great Britain, so I am not particularly familiar with the men involved in the scandal, and I have no wish to defend men who sexually exploited children. My question is whether a 15 year old trading favors with a much older celebrity is really a child. Where I live, 15 year olds can drive motor vehicles with another licensed driver in the car. That’s a pretty big responsibility. If they are capable of that, why are they not capable of choosing what sexual activities they will participate in, and under what circumstances?

They still cannot.

Teenage Drivers are one of the most likely groups to be involved in car accidents. They can drive, but they aren’t good at it. I don’t think 15 year olds should drive. I don’t consider most 15 year olds to be “smart” enough to drive and indeed make sensible decisions behind the wheel.

I mean  this is like saying “Well if Children Can Drive, then why can’t they go to war”. The two things are completely different. Now in the USA due to a chronic unwillingness to invest in public transport, people require cars to do pretty much anything. So a car is vital to mobility and independence. Sex for favours is highly exploitative of a child who doesn’t understand the repercussions of their actions and/or considers the repercussions harmless because they have a very naive (some may say child like) view of the world.

Now kids will experiment sexually  a lot and indeed many kids will exploit each  other but the level of exploitation is a lot lot less than some old paedophile with a crate of beer.

Your argument is an excuse for paedophiles.

Continue reading »]]> Judgy Bitch came to my attention for her frankly lunatic take on a rape trial in the USA where she proceeded to blame the victim of rape as someone trying to gain social approval by “shagging high value males”. Not the reality where the girl was raped precisely because she TURNED DOWN the advances of football players (American). The entire Steubenville rape read like the very epitome of “bullshit” without having to listen to people like “Judgy Bitch”.

So what’s got her knickers in a twist? Well? The backlash against the sudden “outing” of paedophiles in broadcasting. 

Barbara Hewson, a barrister in the UK, has caused a massive shit storm with her call for the age of consent to be lowered to 13 in the wake of what she calls a prurient witch hunt against men who traded favors with underage groupies decades ago.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2321473/Legal-chambers-shock-human-rights-lawyer-calls-age-consent-lowered-13-end-persecution-old-men-wake-Savile-scandal.html

You what? Barbara Hewson is defending paedophiles and this is an excellent way to defend them.

Dear Judgy Bitch.

I looked up to some of the “paedophiles”. I grew up with “Jim Will Fix It”. Jimmy Saville to “us” was “cool”. He wasn’t this scarecrowesque paedophile, he was a “weird grandfather”. We came from a much more innocent time.

No. Not Innocent. Not Naive. A much more “Hushed Up” time. We didn’t admit to being touched up by the paedophiles in our lives. The paedophiles got away with it for a long long time before it became acceptable to admit that you had been molested and harmed by their actions. People lived in silence.

Now I don’t think you quite understand how the law works. But the age of consent in the UK has been 16 since before I was born. In fact a quick Google makes it out to be the case from 1967. Most of these people were breaking the law at the time of their offences but “got away with it”.

So much to unpack! Let’s start with the age of consent.

So much to break. Let’s start with your arguments.

Based on the information contained in this world wide ages of consent chart (which I will assume is true), countries that police the sexuality of their young citizens (and not all of them do), have consent laws that range from 12 to 18 years. Interestingly enough, some countries have different ages for girls and boys. In Columbia, girls can have sex legally when they are 12, but boys have to wait until they’re 14. In Indonesia, girls can legally consent at 16, while boys must hold off until they are 19. In Swaziland and Lesotho, it’s the opposite. Boys can legally have sex at 14, but girls must wait until they are 16.

The problem here is you are not listing titans of progressiveness but places where women’s rights generally have taken a backseat to other issues there. The age of consent is an arbitrary value we have placed on the understanding of sexuality where a “child” stops being regarded as one for the purpose of sex.

Put it this way. I was born on August the 3rd 1985. On August the 2nd 2001 I was “underage”. On the 3rd I was “overage”. That’s “bonkers” but unfortunately it’s just a way of deciding when someone should recieve responsibility for their actions. We use the same idea when declaring which people can drive, drink or serve in the army. History is filled with children who drive, drink and indeed fight wars. That doesn’t mean that what they are doing is universally sensible and acceptable. Underage kids may drink, smoke and fuck but it doesn’t mean you should fucking do it with them.

http://www.avert.org/age-of-consent.htm

In the US, many states have age-gap provisions, and they allow a mistake of age defense. That makes sense to me.

http://www.ageofconsent.us/

Are you suggesting that these men repeatedly made mistakes with regards to the “age” of the groupies they molested?

Okay… Let’s listen to her argument. It’s only fair to listen to it before I break down the argument.

This girl is 13 years old. Her name is Madison Gabriel, and she is professional model, and if you ran into her with her fake ID in a nightclub, there is no reasonable way you could know she is 13 years old!!!

Pretty girl. Except she is 18 now. I don’t know which photos of her are “Aged 12″. But here is the thing?

I agree here. You are basing your arguments on “faith” that the person you meet in a bar is telling the truth on what they are. Which is why people believe that I am Avicenna Hammerthrust, Secret Agent Surgeon and Astronaut…

If the girl looks underaged and lies about her age you have done “nothing wrong” especially if she is in an area where she has provided a fake ID! I mean? Come on! That’s common sense! People to this day are still fooled by Nigerian Princes who want to store their money in your bank account for “just a few days” to keep it safe! Of course you would think the lady above was not 13!

But let’s keep this argument in mind.

http://msjanice.blogspot.ca/2007/12/janice-weighs-in-on-underage-models.html

This girl is 10 years old. Her name is Thylane Loubry Blondeau.

And here she is at 12 years of age.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/08/04/thylane-blondeau-10-year-old-model_n_918066.html

This is Elle Fanning. 13 years old.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2001699/Elle-Fanning-looks-older-13-years-provocative-new-photo-shoot.html

Courtney Stodden is 16 years old. Her husband is 51.

http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20510475,00.html

This is Jennifer Pinches. She looks 12 years old. She is 18.

http://www.tauntonpeople.co.uk/Olympic-star-appear-Taunton-gymnastics-festival/story-17862897-detail/story.html

Okay… We shall accept Judgy Bitch’s argument. People don’t appear the age that they are for a variety of reasons. I am regularly told that I look a lot older than I am so I can “get” this argument. But again dear reader… let it slide. I will come back to it in a moment.

The point being that it can be incredibly difficult to know, just by looking at someone, how old they are. Girls in particular. Clothing, hair, make-up, attitude …. they can all suggest a girl is much, much older than she is. The laws in the US are designed to reflect the reality that it IS possible to mistake a girl’s age and it probably doesn’t help much if she lies about it.

Gosh, that probably NEVER happens.

Because when kids are molested calling them “liars” really helps bring paedophiles to justice. Hey… does anyone remember the response to the people who accused the Catholic church of sexual abuse? Remind me again? Did they call them liars? Did they not subject victims to years of torment while trying to seek justice while protecting the priests who hurt them? Thus ironically actually damaging their own reputation so much that the association between the Church and Paedophilia is so strong that many people forget that the chance of a paedophile priest is the same as the paedophile teacher (it’s just that the Church and the greater Catholic Community protected such priests resulting in horrific tales of abuse while we would simply have jailed that teacher).

Slut Shaming underaged kids seems to be Judgy’s “forte”.

Let’s deal with emotional maturity. The underage girls above are all posed in very sexually suggestive ways. Does that mean they are ready to have sex? Just because they LOOK ready? Obviously not, but that doesn’t automatically mean they AREN’T either. A lot of it will depend on the emotional maturity of their partners. A 13 year old having sex with her 15 year old boyfriend is one thing. A 13 year old having sex with a 60 year old is quite another, no matter how hot that 60 year old guy happens to be.

At what age does it become acceptable to fuck a 13 year old? Pray tell.

The reason we don’t consider 13 year olds adults is because we have all had contact with 13 year old kids and realise that most are barely responsible enough to take care of a dog. They are not adults. They are goddamn idiots. Now you may say “but Avi! I was a smart 13 year old!” or “My 13 year old is smart” but take it from me? Compared to how smart they will be aged 18 or 24 or 28? They are bloody idiots. And the law is there to prevent the idiotic mini adults from making bad decisions due to the actions of adults who “don’t fucking care”.

There are three important variables that effect the average age of first sexual intercourse. http://www.andosciasociology.net/resources/Sex.SamplePgs.pdf

Black girls are sexually active a full year before the average.

And girls who live at age 14 with both their parents delay having sex beyond the average and well beyond girls who do NOT have both parents present.

Not much of a surprise there.

Hey! Did anyone notice the dig at single parents? I did!

Do I win a prize? Like where’s Waldo? I am assuming there is no dig against “black girls” because that would make this a racist thing and I am saving my “Race Card” for when I need it the most.

http://judgybitch.com/2013/01/22/a-teenage-girls-best-weapon-against-slut-culture-her-dad/

Here’s the third, very troubling variable: 25% of kids from low income families are having sex and the average age of initiation is 12.

Maybe. I loathe to read anything she rights so let’s assume she is correct. How would you change that? Well? You would by stopping the sexualisation of children and better SEX EDUCATION. School education in poorer regions in the USA is “pretty fucking terrible” and kids don’t learn this stuff and instead live in a culture of rampant sexualisation.

http://blogs.ajc.com/momania/2009/08/19/studylow-income-kids-starting-sex-on-average-at-12/

So there ARE girls out there having sex at age 12, and they likely come from poor families, which not coincidentally, tend to be fairly troubled.

Actually? The reason why poor families are troubled boils down to Maxwell’s heirarchy of needs. The lack of money places stresses and strains on all members which are adjusted for regularly until someone snaps. Being poor is stressful. It’s why most people on “poverty lines” have “issues”. Whether it be many of my patients and their struggle against alcoholism or the violence within poorer families. The issue seems to be deeper and due to the stress of poverty which I will say is incredibly stressful. The “poor but happy” model is the model of “noble savagery” updated for a modern audience.

http://www.ascd.org/publications/books/109074/chapters/Understanding-the-Nature-of-Poverty.aspx

The situation is not much different in the UK. The average age for first sex is 16 for both men and women.

Nearly a third (30 per cent) of men and a quarter (26 per cent) of women aged 16–19 had sex before the age of 16.

http://www.fpa.org.uk/professionals/factsheets/sexualbehaviour#kpXt4PoQvzktoZg7.99

And it’s the girls from socially troubled, low-income families who are most likely to report early sexual experience.

Yes. Because kids who come from rich families tend to get better education EVEN in the UK because of the social infrastructure to education from their families. I had friends who were poor. My parents would want me to study then go out and play. Theirs wouldn’t care. A detention notice for me came with groundings and even beatings. My poorer friends had it easier…

But it meant I went to University and got qualified. It meant I got educated. And part of that education was PSE where I didn’t spend it giggling at condoms. I paid attention. It may sound like “sour grapes” but frankly? I explain this in a simple way.

Indians in the UK and the USA are upper middle class mainly or middle class. Most are well off enough to satisfy the immediate demand for wealth. They have low crime rates, high employment and high education. Indians in Malaysia though often aren’t that “high up” on the social ladder. Same for Indians in India. There are poorer Indians who have high crime, low employment and poor education. It’s not “genetic” and entirely down to nurture and you nurture education more if you have a value for it. If your existence is down to education then surely you would value it more than someone else who has survived without an education.

http://www.hawaii.edu/hivandaids/Sexual%20Behaviour%20in%20Britain%20%20%20Early%20Heterosexual%20Experience.pdf

Let’s consider all of this information in the context of “Operation Yewtree”, which is the name police have given to their efforts to round up a group of men who were extremely popular entertainers and musicians in Britain some time ago. All quotes are from the Daily Mail article.

Ah yes back to the topic.

Operation Yewtree is the operation to round up British Celebrities who were allegedly part of a massive sex abuse culture during the 1960s,70s,80s and even 90s.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2321473/Legal-chambers-shock-human-rights-lawyer-calls-age-consent-lowered-13-end-persecution-old-men-wake-Savile-scandal.html

Yep read it away!

Lawyer Barbara Hewson described the arrests of celebrities such as Rolf Harris, Dave Lee Travis, Jim Davidson and PR guru Max Clifford under Operation Yewtree as a ‘grotesque spectacle’ adding it had ‘nothing to do with justice or the public interest’.

Except for the public who were molested… they seem kind of obsessed with obtaining justice.

She adds: ‘But the low-level misdemeanours with which Stuart Hall was charged are nothing like serious crime.’

Stuart Hall pleaded guilty to 14 charges of indecent assault involving 13 girls aged between 9 and 17. Two of the offences related to indecent penetration, and all but four of the offences took place between 1972 and 1982, during the time Hall was at the height of his fame with It’s a Knockout. He was a well known public figure as a children’s entertainer. Hall was released on bail pending sentencing on 17 June. Reporting restrictions prevented the media from making the news public until 2 May 2013, when the Crown Prosecution Service elected not to pursue the rape charge or three other indecent assault charges relating to the same complainant, who had decided not to give evidence.

I am afraid the only reason it’s a “Low Level Misdemeanour” is because Indecent Penetration is a separate law in the UK than rape (Rape is with a body part).

Ms Hewson continues: ‘Ordinarily, Hall’s misdemeanours would not be prosecuted, and certainly not decades after the event.

‘What we have here is the manipulation of the British criminal-justice system to produce scapegoats on demand. It is a grotesque spectacle.’

Well, what ARE the charges these men are being arrested for?

Stuart Hall molested a 9 year old girl sexually. His “misdemeanour” would have him prosecuted as a goddamn paedophile. This was a man who was given an OBE. Officer of the British Empire. It’s a big fucking deal. And the reason people came forward was that they believed his actions tarnished the meaning behind such an award.

I took a look at just one “victim”, and I have to say, I am very inclined to agree with Hewson. The link below will take you to the story of Karin Ward, who accuses both Freddy Starr and Jimmy Savile of assaulting her when she was 15.

Karin admits her life has been a train wreck.

A qualified legal secretary, she has rarely worked on account of her chronic depression and anxiety.

Last year, she was diagnosed with bowel cancer. She has been married and divorced three times and has seven children by five different fathers, the youngest of which — a 15-year-old son — lives with her. Three of her children were taken into care as babies, and a fourth at ten years old.

She spent a year in prison when pregnant with her fourth child in 1982 for deception, having written cheques knowing she had no funds to honour them. All the result, she believes, of the abusive childhood she suffered.

 I classify child abuse and sexual assault as similar issues because the effect of such varies from individual to individual.

There are individuals like myself who were beaten as children who grew up to be normal. I am nothing spectacular and all I learnt from “the beatings” is “never to hit my own kids”. There are people who suffered less pain growing up than I did but who broke down.

And I remind people that I don’t expect others to do what I do. I cannot expect any of you to sleep 5 hours a day and work 12 in temperatures above 35 Degrees C and humidity above the 80s with fluctuating power.

So likewise there are some individuals who were abused and who shed the weight of the abuse and went on to live long, healthy and normal lives. Then there are some people who were abused and whose abuse consumed them. We cannot say “tough it up you fragile babies” because then we are entering the world of “How Tough Are You” and that’s not how the world works.

You bunch of fairies…

Yikes! She must have suffered some pretty serious abuse at the hands of Freddy and Jimmy to result in such a severely fucked up life. What on earth happened that led to all this?

Karin claimed that when she recoiled from Starr’s alleged attempt to grab her breast and buttocks, he humiliated her by shouting out in front of the guests that he wasn’t interested in touching her because she was flat-chested.

It’s a clear case of sexual abuse and from a figure of trusted authority.

I’m sorry. WHAT?!?

He tried to grab her ass and then called her a “titless wonder”? That’s the “abuse”? Are you fucking kidding me?

Oh wait. There’s more.

Wait wait wait! Remember the start of the argument?

That some girls don’t look their age. Jimmy Saville’s show was specifically aimed at kids. And he knew how old they were. Because they would say how old they were when they wanted to appear on his show. For the same reason that nearly every show would get kids to say how old they are.

On one occasion, Karin claims, Savile persuaded her to perform a sex act on him in his Rolls-Royce on the promise of seeing one of his shows.

So there was more than one occasion then?

‘We’d think: “Jimmy’s here, we might get to go out.” If he came in his Rolls-Royce, he could get several girls in there and he would take us to the park, to a restaurant or London.’ There was, as the girls found out, a price to be paid for such generosity.

‘He wasn’t interested in us as people, he was only interested in one thing. We’d say: “He’s a dirty old man, a pervert,” but we’d laugh about it. We didn’t care because we were going to get sweets and fags and be taken to London to be on his show.’

‘We’d sit at the tables, smoking, thinking: “Poor cow, I wonder what she has to do,” and then we’d go: “Never mind, another trip to London.” ’

Bear in mind these are kids. Jimmy here is taking advantage of them. Judgy Bitch’s particular “He didn’t know their age” argument is fucking scuppered.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wdVNp7elw4w

Notice how he FUCKING READS THEIR AGE OUT? Jimmy Fucking Saville knew how old they were and still fucked them because he is a goddamn paedophile. And here is the thing.

Hey. Do you know what you call the act of taking a child and treating them to stuff so that they are in debt to the giver mentally and so are easier to abuse?

It’s called Grooming. And Saville and Starr were doing that to kids. Kids who trusted them while kids across the UK wanted to meet them.

So basically, the girls were groupies. They wanted all the benefits of hanging out with a big star and they understood it came with a price and they paid it, perhaps reluctantly, but with full knowledge that the trips to London and the fags and the sweet weren’t free.

I give out sweets to kids. You see, I am allergic to soya lecithin. An emulsifier in Chocolate. It won’t kill me but it does give me terrible diarrhoea. I know. TMI. But people do give me bars of chocolate as a thank you sometimes. I give these away.

I do give kids chocolates and sweets. But there is no price. Many of these kids would never get to eat a bar of chocolate that may cost as much as a day’s salary for their parents. That is my reason. To see them smile. The price of a chocolate bar is nothing compared to seeing a child taste real good chocolate for the first time.

So often these kids follow me around and bring me stuff and want to hang out with the “non-scary doctor” who tells their parents to not scare them with injections (If you don’t eat the doctor will give you an injection). But to take advantage of such trust is not the actions of a role model for children. He took advantage of the trust he received to groom young girls for sex. By providing them an outlet for what they thought was glamour. He made them believe that fucking him was part of the lifestyle.

By making this argument Judgy Bitch is excusing “grooming” as a practice. Paedophile apologists are rather rare I would have thought.

Why should they be?

They came from horrifically messed up families and had tons of problems long before they ever laid eyes on Jimmy or Garry or any of the other accused men. What they wanted was an escape. A way out. A free pass. They clearly had zero adult supervision. Who lets their young daughter go to London with a much older, famous entertainer? Who lets their teenager cruise around with a man reeking of cigar smoke and alcohol in a Rolls-Royce?

Jimmy Saville was considered a national treasure. You say “What Sort of Family Lets their Kids Go With A Famous Person On A Trip”, I say “What Sort of Person Lets Their Child Sit on the Lap of A Stranger in A Fake Beard” (HO HO HO!).

Jimmy may have preyed on children from poor families for two reasons.

1. Easy to wow poorer people with the trappings of glamour.

2. Poorer people are less likely to be believed at the time.

Basically? He went after the absolute weakest and most vulnerable members of society by offering them the things they craved most in their lives. Glamour and Celebrity.

And for fuck’s sake! The man was literally grooming children with “Candy”! How much more stereotypical can you get?

And now they are claiming the MEN abused THEM? Looks to me like it was the other way around. The situations and incidents Karin describes as abuse were nothing more than girls out famewhoring. Desperate for male approval and love and attention and power by proxy, they tried shooting for the moon.

Oh this argument again?

Want to know something horrible? Of course you do! We wouldn’t be here if we were going to hold back punches.

Remember how we said that Judgy Bitch’s “People don’t look the age they are” Argument and how I said it was bullshit because Saville knew the ages of the girls on his show?

Well Saville also molested children in hospitals. You know… Places where their age was known. So… what? Are sick (and often chronically sick) children deciding to “Shoot for the Moon”?

And here is the most important thing. THE MOST ABSOLUTE FUCKING IMPORTANT THING. If a 14 year old girl came up to you and said “I fancy you, you big rock star! I want you to fuck me!”, the correct answer is “No”. It’s not “Yes, because I gave you a ride” or “Yes, because I gave you candy”. No No No! All those are actions of a terrible human being and fucking paedophile.

Judgy Bitch calls herself a MRA. If she’s an MRA then I want her out of the movement. She’s a detriment to fucking men everywhere because her argument paints us all as goddamn paedophiles.

Men. That is my gender. The XY chromosome bearing portion of the world. We have agency. We have more agency in sex than women. So chances are even if this “sexually active minor” were to present herself as willing we would be entirely capable of saying “No”.

To claim that we would not is to claim that men have sex on reflex. That we literally have no agency because our entire existence is not but reflex. That men cannot think or control their behaviour. And that’s far more damaging to the image of men than ANY feminist.

It’s a story as old as bloody time. Young women with nothing to offer but their youth and sexuality chase after powerful men in exchange for favors. If we are going to arrest every powerful man who has ever availed himself of willing women, we are gonna need to build a whole lot of jails.

And a story older than bloody time is how a lot of men are able to keep it in their goddamn pants. Seriously? Am I the only man insulted by the notion that the mere possibility of sex turns us into slavering monsters?

Hewson says the men being arrested are scapegoats. Scapegoats for what? For the anger and embarrassment and jealousy and bitterness the women feel because they FAILED to land the big fish? Would any of these women be complaining if they had ended up married to one of the stars?

Maybe not. Maybe they wouldn’t see what these men did as abusive, coercive and plain fucking wrong but there are women who happily throw stones at rape victims or set brides on fire. However they are still people abused by the system where they genuinely believe that throwing the stone or setting the bride on fire is the “best” thing to do.

If you “groom” your children to fit certain roles they will fit them. I was “groomed” to be “upper middle class”. I always was going to go to University and the idea of any other job never even crossed my mind. Now imagine why a young girl would “be a groupie”. Society has groomed her to expect that life so she seeks happiness through it because the romantic ideal is that specific “girl” will somehow break through to this rock star’s heart and be the “one”.

But it never is…

Hell no. They’d all be divorced now with half his assets in their bank accounts, gloating over what idiots men are to fall for youth and beauty.

It’s surprising how few women in my life have ever been interested in how much money I could earn and how much I will earn in the future.

Hewson wants to lower the age of consent so that prosecuting these men becomes impossible. While I understand her ire, I’m afraid I can’t agree with her solution entirely. Lower the age of consent to 13? Okay. Sure.

No… The lowered age of consent will just let paedophiles not be a problem anymore in the same way that legalising drink driving will make drunken drivers not a problem anymore.

But put in sensible measures like the United States. An age gap consideration and a mistaken age defense. With power, comes responsibility. That’s part of the deal. Powerful men have some obligation to use their power judiciously. Underage girls are off limits, no matter how willing they are to comply.

These are considerations in the UK… The Fact of the matter is the chronic abuse of people like Stuart Hall and Saville and Starr is so widespread that it cannot be because of “mistaken age”. Especially considering (And this bears repeating) Saville raped children in hospitals and children who appeared on his show whose ages he knew because he would FUCKING INTRODUCE THEM. It’s chilling to hear how nurses wouldn’t leave him alone in wards with patients and how powerless they were to stop him at the time.

Judiciously? Judgy here has used her platform to protect horrible paedophiles who have abused scores of children.

With power, comes responsibility. It applies to the girls, too. Youth and beauty and enthusiasm have power, and the girls have some responsibility to use their power judiciously. Chasing after much older men in the hopes of currying favor and gaining benefits is off limits.

To put it into perspective?

Being molested by Jimmy Saville would be like being molested by Mr. Rodgers. It’s that level of an abuse of public trust.

But humans are humans. Powerful men always have and always will delight in young women hunting them. Young women always have and always will hunt for powerful men. Both sides are equally culpable. Both sides are engaging in abuse. Both sides are behaving shamefully. Both side are being idiots.

No my dear. Only one side is engaging in abuse. And this notion of powerful men?

It hurts men who do good things out there. Men who don’t abuse the notion of “power”. While both sides are “idiots” the effect of “women chasing after money” is less virulent than “Paedophilia”.

But only one side is being held criminally responsible? Bullshit. If the girls are not going to be strung up on charges of solicitation and prostitution, and I absolutely do NOT think they should be, then fairness and equality under the law dictates the men get a pass, too.

You are going to prosecute minors on prostitution charges?

Sleeping with an underage prostitute is still paedophilia and still prosecuted as such. The law would throw the book at these famous paedophiles just as hard.

We can argue this in two ways. The first way I have repeated to death.

The second? Well? Minors cannot be prosecuted for certain actions and child prostitution is ONE of them.

So no even if we did try and prosecute these abuse victims for the “mystical crime of Gold Digging” (AKA being a Whore) they would still walk free and we would still jail paedophiles.

Sometimes you get the bear, sometimes the bear gets you.

And sometimes you should stop talking because you actually harm the MRA movement. Hell if anything the various Misters from the MRA movement should be distancing themselves from Judgy Bitch right about now…

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I once read in the preface of a book that if males were able to have children themselves, the woman would be essentially useless.

Sorry, I don’t like to think of myself as useless.

“Men are just the incomplete X chromosome.” -S.C.U.M Manifesto

No sorry, we need men just as much as we need women.

Feminism is tricky. Because to each person, male or female, we have our own personal interpretation of it and what it means to us. I can easily say “well, women are better than men. Men don’t want to accept it. That’s why we’re oppressed so much.” or “all men are dogs.”

Using those as explanations, it is a form of lazy logic. I do admit, that  women and men are physically different. But does that really make one inferior to the other, or even superior? No, not at all. Intellectually, are we different? No, because I know that women can read,write, work, and do all of the tasks men can do. Living in the twenty-first century, I think feminism has really changed into what it means and how we should approach it.

My Aunt who was in the heart of the civil rights movement in the 60’s and 70’s would tell me that women in this movement would say “we can bring home the bacon too.” She also described to me the horrors of what misunderstanding that could bring from such a simple, tasty slogan. The whole world mainly thought of the slogan one of two ways “oh my wife wants to work and take care of the kids? That’s great! I can now do less since she wants to do more!” and “since my wife wants to work, that means I don’t have so much stress provide for my family.”

Women, and many other groups of the oppressed just wanted to work, wanted to be valued, and wanting to be treated like a human. As a woman, I never felt as oppressed as my Aunt fortunately, but I have been cheated out of experiences simply because I was female.

From not being able to play sports with the boys to not being trusted in a group with work because my male counterparts seemed more “trusting”.  That raises another question, feminism fights for women to have equal rights, equal pays and having the same opportunities as men, right?

For the most part, we have gotten to that level of equality, way further than 200 years ago, even 40 years ago. Aren’t we women happy? Well, for one, I’m not, because although we have these opportunities now, we still do not have the trust that men have in those occupations. Those occupations because scientists, engineers, athletes, even chefs. I do believe that in order for women to achieve the same status or respect as men, then must work harder to get the same recognition as males do in their occupation.

Personally, we as humans need to stop dwelling on whose inferior or superior. I think we waste too much time arguing about it. I think we are complimentary to each other and we were meant to pick up the slack or someone down faults like others do with ours. Women, it is our job to believe in ourselves and be the person that we truly want to be. Men, it is your job to trust that we can do just as good of a job as you, and to allow us to help you.

Half of our resources would be wasted if we didn’t treat women as people too.

Continue reading »]]> Forty Six people were killed on Friday in Southern Turkey when two car bombs were detonated.

It’s believed to be violence from Syria spilling over. And Turkey has squarely pointed the blame at Pro-Assad elements trying to “drag Turkey into the war”. It’s a sad event but hopefully International pressure can stop the spread of violence from Syria and even bring peace to Damascus.

Continue reading »]]> I get mail from someone who doesn’t understand atheism as a “Christian”.

1.       Define Atheism…

Atheism is an absence of belief in any deity.

2.       Give an argument for atheism, not agnosticism

The argument for atheism and agnosticism are “linked”.

There is no empirical unbiased or scientific evidence for a god. There is nothing to infer the existence of one or more gods and the mere existence of one creates so many requirements that believing in one is simply an exercise in fantasy. As there is no evidence for one the appropriate way to live one’s life is to say “I don’t believe in a god”.

Now, you may say that we “don’t know” what exists but that’s like saying that we don’t have any evidence for the existence of fairies so we must be fairy agnostic where we genuinely regard the possible existence of a fairy as an equal stance as not believing in them.

I think the argument for agnosticism is intellectually not rigorous.

Your god may exist, but the chance of it existing is vanishingly small. It’s just as vanishingly small as the gods of other faiths. To live our lives according to the rules of a creature that may or may not exist is an exercise in madness. And if you basically state that your gods exist prior to the “Big Bang” then my response is “We Do Not Know”. We don’t know what was there before the Big Bang. No one does. We can imply what was there through mathematics but the options are NOT mathematical model vs. existence of a magical being.

3.       Define God, if any based on their Ideology

A god is an entity or entities that exists outside the boundaries of the universe that is fully capable of breaking all known laws of physics using what can only be defined as “magic”. These may or may not pay attention to humanity but universally seem responsible for various forces of nature including the “ultimate” force which is the force of the creation of the universe.

That’s really it. It’s not a mystery. It’s sensible answers to silly questions.

Continue reading »]]> I haven’t been blogging as prolifically as normal because I am in Manchester and “I got to go get wasted”.

I am meeting Tiga tonight after ages so fingers crossed. I will have photos up.

I intend to meet Ally (our new blogger) Fogg and sit around be all British. We will discuss Dr. Who and The Queen. I also intend to meet the few mancunian readers that I do have. I will be blogging just at a lot lower pace than my normal rate.

It’s good to be back. The rain and the chill have replaced the sun in my veins. It’s amusing to all who are amazed that I yearn for the grey and wet cold of Manchester rather than the blazing sun of India.

First Beer tonight too. You have no idea how long I have waited for a day like this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQIdXKz4sE8

Sorry! No angry posts but I should start dedicating time to some writing shortly.

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There is a consistent problem within the various MRA spheres particularly the Indian one bemoaning “Women/Girls these Days”.

Basically? MRA don’t like what’s happened to women. No longer are they docile. No longer do their lives revolve around men and how to please them. It’s not that men’s power has been eroded but women have been gaining the same power that men have. And this frightens a generation of men brought up to think that women will like them no matter what.

And this causes them to wax poetical about it.

We live in a very strange world, a world where love is cursed by polygamy, sex has lost its value, and women have changed drastically. From once having morals and respect for themselves, girls are running around now with not a bit of dignity.

My dear when you said a threesome with a fan, that’s not what I had in mind

The MRA live in such a terrible world. These dainty flowers cannot fathom the depths of depravity our world has sunk to! Women speak to men as equals! And now women wear pantaloons! PANTALOONS! Why! The average woman’s ankles may be easily seen! This is too much for their dainty hearts! These delicate men are too fragile, to weak and too good for this sinful earth.

Sure you can call it generation YOLO and women seizing the moment and just living life and having fun like they like to call it, but it just leaves me hoping I never end up with a daughter. nowadays values are corrupted and it’s seems its all about having fun: the quick sex, the quick thrill and the terrible Facebook photos that you get tagged in the next day, but there has to be some sort of a line.

For men, it’s great that these women have decided to become just like us. They’ve taken the male approach to sex and the way we treat the other gender. It is almost like they have become a mirror image of men in our love for a multitude of partners. This is great, because it cuts out a lot of the hard work that men used to have to go through to woo a woman to get what they ultimately want.

Sure women have become independent, which is a great feat and should constantly be encouraged, but that is the positive side of women rising to power in our society. With every pro there happens to be a con, and the con here is that most of these women have completely lost all respect for themselves, and their morals along the way.

They’ve become thirsty for attention, from posting half naked photos on Instagram to having their whole lives exposed on the internet, through the course of hashtags. Then you have drugs, cocaine and molly being predominant, and many women addicted to prescription pills to help their “anxiety.” In short, women have become easy, but they have also become broken — and eventually become undesirable because no one stays hot forever.

Sure we men are to blame for this as well, but that is because we are idiots. It all comes down to perception. Women see us drool over that hot girl that is standing half naked in her default picture or see us go wild when we easily get the number to a hot girl we just met on the street. To a man’s perception this seems “right” because it’s exactly what we want: sex without much effort. But for women from the outside looking in, they think that this is what we want, and it skews their perception.

Good girls gone bad, the city is filled with them to paraphrase the great Jay-Z. The problem is that it’s not just the city, but society as a whole. Men are to blame for this because we encourage such behavior and give these girls the attention they want when they are dressed up like complete retards at EDM shows and when they are in their bikinis on Instagram. But women are also to blame in giving this artificial persona of what men call hot or not.

Sure I’m an asshole that loves to take advantage of women who are willing to bang me without me having to offer too much, but at the same time I am also a gentleman that knows how to treat a lady with respect and compassion just like any other true lady should be treated.

The truth of the matter is that you can’t change women that are already broken, so those are the ones that men use for exactly what we want: sex with no strings attached. Because it’s easy and it’s right in front of us. But at some point in time, through the course of our lives, we are going to grow out of chasing someone that has been with everyone. Sure being a bachelor is fun and all, the stories are great, bragging to our friends is epic, but we are eventually going to want more out of a female than just sex.

That is when we want to settle down, but with a lady who has respect for herself, morals — and there isn’t one guy out there that can have a bad story to tell about her — like the time she had a threesome in a London hostel while studying abroad.

Because of the double standard that is in place between men and women, finding a girl of this nature wasn’t that hard decades ago because women actually held high standards for themselves and demanded men to treat them properly before they gave them what they wanted.

The truth of the matter nowadays is that good girls, as we like to call them, don’t really exist. They are unicorns. You are lucky if you come across one that is actually who she says she is. We sometimes even joke that our future wives are currently in Kindergarten because it is comforting to know that she is currently playing with blocks and not swinging from dick to dick because they sell her a good enough story. And when she’s 18 we’ll snap her right up and she’ll have no exposure to being a slut.

Men are going to want to settle down with a good girl, a girl that is respectable and not someone that has been with everyone — as that is every man’s fear. The older you get, the more you realize that it is a fantasy that doesn’t actually exist. When you actually meet one, you will refuse to admit she’s real anyways.

My question is what happened to a girl impressing us with her intellect and being able to hold a conversation past: do you come here often? Why has it become the standard that women have to impress men by flashing their tits or dressing up half naked? Sure we may seem dumb when we are chasing smuts, but when we do actually want to settle down with a female, she has to meet the standards that we have for a girl with whom we want to settle down.

Through my experiences, as well as the experiences of many other men, it’s hard to come across a good girl or a unicorn. We’re not asking for much here, just a girl that respects herself and is smart to the point where she would understand us.

But then there is the other side of the spectrum, that when we do actually find a unicorn and settle down, our ego gets a bit ahead of ourselves and we find them a bit too boring for our liking, so we decide to cheat. It’s like a double-edged sword. You realize it wasn’t getting the unicorn, but rather attracting something you thought never existed. It always is about the chase and never about the perfection of the woman. And that is the mindset of men in the 21st century.

What we look for is a lady on the street and a freak in the bed, as Ludacris once explained. The problem is that most girls are freaks everywhere, which leaves us with fewer options when trying to settle down. Unicorns are tough to find, and if you do stumble upon one, do everything in your power to hold onto her, as the chase is only fun for so long — and we do have a sense of compassion and companionship we like to share with a partner.

Those are the natural instincts of a man. Ladies, men are not going to respect you if you don’t respect yourselves. It’s that simple.