The type of masculinity that young boys are taught is not compatible with mental health and with ethical behavior. Full stop. We’re fortunate that so relatively few will take it to the lengths that Rodger did, but I don’t know a single man who doesn’t suffer as a direct consequence of it. I know few who have never madeothers suffer as a direct consequence of it. We need to inoculate boys against this harmful and maladaptive thinking rather than teach it to them.
One of the first people to be banned from A Million Gods was a MRA/PUA type guy who ran a letter that was bigotted. And I shut him down and banned him. He had it coming.
One of the commentators noted something interesting. See we talk about this idealised standard of what a man is and we forget that most of us aren’t that. We do what we can with what we have.
He noted that the joke of being called a Beta Male by this man was amusing since I was going into a career generally considered an “Alpha Career”. Mainly because TV Doctors are portrayed as muscular men with amazing skin. Not people who get varicose veins. It is an ideal. Miri’s Post on Elliot Rodger is spot on.