I already saw the photo from Wonder Con. It is of a T-Shirt that says this.
So what’s wrong with it? Well?
I am aware that there are geeks who despise the fact that our culture has become mainstream. To which I have said “Are you crazy? Women are not repelled by comic books, will watch Doctor Who and we have seen the Avengers become a high budget movie.”
Geek culture is finally cool. And you know what? So what if people are taking part in it. Are we to ban musclebound jocks from owning smart phones? Must I knock people operating a Nokia 1020 to the ground and yell “Fuck You! You are poser! Your 41 MP camera is ruining photography! DSLR for life! Posers!”
No. That would make me a douchebag. That would make me the jock of my culture and a stereotype, denying groups acceptance simply due to me being part of a cultural mainstream. You cannot possibly be a real geek if you do not appreciate D&D or obscure comic books.
There are geeks who bemoan the fact that we are now popular because their erstwhile tormentors now dress and act like us doing the same things we were once bullied for. Guess what? That is the same in so many different cultures. Perhaps we should let go of the anger of our youth and stop thinking that people don’t grow.
And what is the point in getting angry and raging against jocks wearing fake glasses. My cousin wears fake glasses, it rather amuses me since my glasses are actually pretty expensive (I have a pretty hefty prescription so require HI lenses and those cost. I do actually have a pair of lenses cut for me from standard plastic and let us just say that it is a proper coke bottle prescription. One of the things you guys reading and donating paid for was a proper pair of glasses that don’t make me look like I mugged Urkel)
It is no secret that there is a sizeable overlap between communities of atheism, MRA and indeed the geek community.
For a long while we have been an entirely male dominated community. And in this we create an echo chamber and deny people outside our groups who may not share our exact ideals membership of said groups.
For instance? Pro-Life atheists. I know they exist. But I also know that they are wrong about what they think. I don’t think atheism is ruined by inter-atheism differences. I don’t mind that people like Penn Jillette exist, I do think they are wrong though and when they push their ideals I am entitled to voice my opinion. I do think that people like Pat Condell are harmful as they propose an anti-theistic view built on ignorance and hearsay and gossip rather than reality.
I oppose the MRA not because I dislike men but because what they propose is damaging women’s rights rather than actually helping men.
And the problem is the “Fedora”. The intersection of Geek and MRA. Misogyny is very real and entrenched within all of geek culture. Comics, Games… you name it. The Fedora is the term used to describe the person who is the stereotype. The social overconfidence and frankly terrible opinions turn any even into a toxic miasma. This can be sexism, it can be homophobia or racism too. But it’s most visible format is sexism.
But our world is changing. It is becoming more open.
And the last thing we need are people trying to keep geek exclusive and forgetting the reason why we used to be exclusive. It wasn’t because we were cool, but because we were pariahs. We need to change and this means changes in our media and in the way we behave.
This is what we wanted.