Earlier today I was told that I should stop representing India as a terrible place for women. The rationale is simple. The more people like me speak out against things that are wrong with India the more it validates racists.
It’s simple? If they didn’t have this to whinge about they would find something else to complain about. My personal favourite is all Indians stink of curry (You say it like it’s a bad thing).
I weighed up the options and decided to keep informing people about the struggle of women in India (Sorry Mr. Esmay, Astro and other MRA) because it is needed. I cannot really help beyond my medicine and giving events a boost so more Indian women will get mad and make angry noises.
A German journalist staying at a hotel in Agra was assaulted by the hotel’s manager. He allegedly tried to rape her while she was in the bathroom trying to take a shower. When she protested and fought back, he made a video clip of her to black mail her.
Hotel Relax in Baluganj area is located just opposite the residence of Deputy Inspector General of Police V.K. Meena
The woman filed a complaint at Rakjabganj police station, located barely 200 meters from the hotel and the manager was arrested and booked under Section 353/354 of the IPC.
200 metres and opposite the house of the Deputy Inspector General of the Police. And that didn’t stop the rapist.
One of the things I spoke about with great sadness was how nearly every guide to India advised women to travel in groups. Preferably with a man you trust so that his mere presence would deter these predators. Because that is what they are. Predators. They seek out the vulnerable and attack them when they cannot fight back.
What’s causing this? What’s driving this? Why specifically does India have this terrible reputation? It’s not due to us speaking about it, we didn’t speak about it as openly before. The abuse didn’t start after we discussed rape.
There is something wrong in the way we raise our young men. The excess privilege we give them is poisoning their treatment of women. In addition they are getting really weird ideas on how to approach women from somewhere.
It is with great sorrow that I have to agree. India is not safe to travel as a woman. Do not travel alone, travel with friends as a group at all times and travel with some guys. It’s idiotic that men have to be the protectors of women but in India? This seems to be one of the few ways to be safe. I have seen it time and time again where my female colleagues invite me to events solely to drive away unwanted male attention.
I wish we didn’t have to think like this but until India changes the way it treats women and the way it teaches its boys to behave, we will have to err on the side of caution rather than independence.
No, we aren’t protectors. We are scarecrows. A man hired solely to drive away predators. This is not a good thing. You may exemplify me as a gentleman who walks women home late at night and who is trusted enough to do so without fear of assault but inside I weep because it means that I am a rarity. A man who is good.
And remember Nirbhaya’s boyfriend? Sometimes even that is not enough.