How to Send A Message

Child abuse is something that’s very common among non-white communities in the west. There is an almost casual nature to it and it’s often funny to “us” because white people don’t hit their kids. We see it as a reason as to why white children are so “badly behaved” while children from our communities are not.

I was often hit as a child and while I don’t carry any physical scars as other kids do, I don’t think hitting children teaches them anything apart from violence. The children who are beaten often grow up to beat their own kids and it is a cycle of abuse. Pain doesn’t teach children anything. Discipline at the hands of pain is not discipline but blind obedience.

And that’s without going into the horrible torturous way children across the world are hurt by adults. Often for no real reasons.

In reality that has more to do with children from minority groups such as asians coming from upper middle class families with a greater onus on education due to culture while many white kids from poorer families have no such impetus. It’s why British Asian economics is so polarised with British Asians either being upper middle class, rich, law abiding and well educated or making up some of the poorest and least educated or socially mobile.

The culture of “hitting kids” is joked about.

Jokes aside. Most of us of the new generation grew up with this kind of abuse. And we will stop it.

I think it’s a pretty cool way of advertising a child abuse line and to get children and adults thinking about what does and doesn’t constitute abuse. I feel a lot of people don’t get that some things are abuse or see that as the traditional way of bringing up kids. The entire idea of a change of perspective, that the only way an adult can see the message is by crouching in an uncomfortable, difficult and vulnerable position. It provides children with information and adults with “perspective” making it an effective advertisement.

Anything to reduce child abuse is good.

Just… don’t go read the Youtube Comments.


  1. Martyn says

    Wow, that ‘Only For Children’ advertisment is an amazing idea. Very clever.

    ‘Just… don’t go read the Youtube Comments’.

    That’s true of youtube comments regardless of the nature of the videos it seems.

  2. says

    I love the posters and how they work. That’s genius! Kids often don’t know or understand what is going on. Sometimes they rationalize why it’s okay that these things have been done. They’ve been taught the abuse is normal.

    As for the white people not hitting their kids, that probably is the majority. But there is an ugly, underlying system of abuse in many forms existing in white communities. I’ve seen it. I’ve also personally seen judges let white men off for choke slamming (grabbing them by the neck and slamming the kid onto the hood of a car specifically) a child in full view of white witnesses. It’s as if it was okay for him to do it. It’s sickening. To be fair, I also know (personally) a black man who beat the crap out of his handicapped son and got away with it. He still has custody! America is seriously screwed up in that respect. It’s just sick.

  3. left0ver1under says

    I was often hit as a child and while I don’t carry any physical scars as other kids do,

    I don’t carry scars either ether, but the abuse my parents inflicted made me cut all ties with them. I haven’t talked to them in over a decade, I don’t know if they’re alive anymore, and I don’t care. The last straw was them taking part in protesting a trial against a local catholic priest (bishop? I forget) charged with raping a woman. The filth was found guilty at trial, but got off on a technicality which pleased the two no end.

    I don’t think hitting children teaches them anything apart from violence.

    The only thing it told me was something I already knew: my parents were lousy people. Dishonesty and hypocrisy were habitual for them as well as being openly racist. It also told that if I have kids, they’ll never be a presence in the kids’ lives.

    A popular Canadian song from 1983, if I may:

  4. S Mukherjee says

    WARNING: violence against children
    I grew up in India. My parents genuinely did not see anything wrong with physical punishment, and never held back in inflicting it on my brother and me. It astonishes me how such loving, affectionate and responsible parents like them could do things like slapping me hard on the face, grabbing my ear and twisting it mercilessly, grabbing hold of my hair and jerking my head back violently,… well, you get the picture. These punishments were always accompanied with them screaming in anger at me for not being able to do my sums, or scoring poor marks in a test, or not doing my homework and so on. Now, many years later, I sort of understand the context and the type of society I was growing up in, the kind of pressures on my parents, etc. But I still haven’t forgiven or forgotten.

    I am a few years younger than my brother, and when I was a baby, my brother would hit me sometimes. My parents were horrified, but he explained to them that since they hit him, he needed someone to hit as well. Apart from forbidding him from hitting me, sadly my parents did not learn anything.

  5. smrnda says

    I worked in child care in the States and we, of course, could not hit kids. The kids were 0 through 6 and seriously, I couldn’t think of a single occasion when hitting a kid would have solved anything. Even if it stopped a behavior, it’s better to use another method.

    The other issue I have with hitting kids is that, though I’m female and relatively small, I spent a lot of time studying marital arts and hand to hand combat. I learned effective ways to damage and kill people by hitting them, so to me, hitting a kid seems about equivalent to pulling a gun on a kid. Doing that would be criminal.

  6. Rich Woods says

    @smrnda #5:

    I spent a lot of time studying marital arts and hand to hand combat.

    Marital arts? That must have been some class! ;-)

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