It Gets Better – Enough is Enough.

Im a casualty of love.
Well, Im tired of life really. Its so hard, Im sorry, I cant take it anymore.
First Id like to mention my friends Nancy, Abby, Colleen, jemma, and Kasia
Being sad is sad : /. I’v been like this for way to long. I cant stand school, I cant stand earth, I cant stand society, I cant stand the scars on my arms, I cant f***ing stand any f***ing thing.
I dont want my parents to think this is their fault either… I love my mom and dad : ) Its just too hard. I dont want to wait 3 more years, this hurts too much. How do you even know It will get better? Its not.
I hit rock f***ing bottom, fell through a crack, now im stuck.
My favorite singers were lady gaga , Adele , Katy perry, and Jessie james, Christina aguilara and most of all I think KASIA!!! I LOVED Singing, and she helped me a lot : ) Im not that good at it though :”/, Im going to miss you guys
(well You know who you are, But to the people who didnt like me (many) A big f*** you, Go ride a unicorn. But w/e I love you anyway.)
Remember me as a Unicorn :3 x) MAybe in my next life Il be a flying squirreel :D
Il fly away.

This is the last post by Jamie Hubley on his blog. Jamie was a 15 year old Canadian who committed suicide after being bullied at school about his sexuality. This is just a week after Jamey Rodemeyer also committed suicide after being bullied.

Before I start I can honestly say that this actually affected me in a very profound way. It took me nearly 2 hours to place all my thoughts down as I walked the fine line between rage and writing. Because I felt a personal sympathy as I was on the causative side of these kinds of feelings when I was in school myself. And looking back at when I was just a kid with more hair than common sense, this is the one thing about myself I am genuinely ashamed of. I would love to start up some sort of Agony Service for bullied kids. Just an IM service or a Skype line so that kids can call up volunteers across the globe and speak to someone who would just listen to them. Maybe even something as simple as an email system where we can respond to such people. Maybe give them a bit of hope to hang in there till it does get better. This was just a kid who wanted someone to talk to, someone who may have given him the hope he needed to go on.

We can talk about how “It Get’s Better” and how we ourselves rose above the bullies. How we learnt and grew from all of that. But it doesn’t help kids who are being bullied right now.

We are adults, we all are responsible for this. It won’t get better unless we make it better ourselves. We cannot simply expect the gay kid, the kid who isn’t like the others and the nerds to put up with this kind of nonsense. We cannot expect them to simply keep fighting while we cheer from the side lines. It’s time we acted like adults.

We have to stop bullying now. All of it. It’s hard, bullying is the natural state of any group of people. But at least we can try and curtail the excess of it. Kids don’t learn homophobia from other kids, they learn it from parents. Our society is filled with racism, homophobia and hate so kids learn that and take that with them to the schools where they just apply our behaviour to their peers.

Be it racism, sexism or homophobia. All bullying is wrong. We shouldn’t tolerate it, we should stop it and we should stop it now. It does get better, it really does. But it would get better a lot faster if we did something about it ourselves.

I do feel that we as adults should reach out to kids who suffer from bullying. That we ourselves can use our experience to fight bullying on all fronts, from adult life to schools.

For me school was some of the best days of my life, but I know I was responsible for some level of bullying of kids for their perceived sexual preference. For me school was some of the happiest days of my life to the point I never understood why no one would ever hate school. But for some kids it’s the worst possibl
e place on earth, and we need to start changing that. It’s not something that can happen overnight, it’s something that takes time and effort but we have to start right now.

Enough is enough, we need to take responsibility. 


  1. says

    I agree with you a 100 % and am fully prepared to take part in such lifelines.
    Great post , would that it were superfluous.
    Breaks my heart to read this last letter.

  2. says

    Fantasic post. I, too, agree with you 100%. Not only that, but if you check out some of my posts (even on the "rest in peace Jamie Hubley" page, I'm saying the same thing you're saying. Enough IS enough! And, the time is right here, right now. Bravo to you.

  3. says

    I'm really saddened and angered by these posts because I can see myself in these boys. I was the target of homophobic and racist bullying in school. I hated it and it's one of the contributing factors to my ongoing depression and suicidal thoughts. I wish I could take these kids away, somewhere where they'll be safe and loved. I wish someone had done that for me when I was in their place.

    Such a senseless waste of life. So many people destroyed because of ignorance.

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