May 07 2011
We are all Born This Way
I have a confession to make, I actually like Glee. There I said it! As a straight man, I find glee quite fun. It’s a silly little show about music and school life. It’s like a bit more realistic version of High School Musical mainly because I can sing along and have a laugh doing it.
Does anyone see anything wrong with it? I mean apart from being cheesy? Sometimes cheese is good though.
But the thing is, it showcases musical theatre and is pro gay. There is nothing wrong with that, if anything more things should be pro gay. But a recent episode based around the song “Born This Way” has triggered outrage from Mr. Bryan Fischer.
He claims it glamorises homosexuality. No it does not, glee points out the sheer mental torture gay people have had to go through. Kurt is routinely bullied for his effeminate nature despite being the kicker on the American football team (I am british. In the rest of the world everyone is the kicker except for the goalkeeper and even he kicks things) and indeed one of the few people competent at that job. Kurt’s father in one episode is sent a harassing phone call. It shows a relatively realistic gay experience as a normal human being in a world where people like Bryan Fischer exist. A life of bullying at the hands of people who don’t understand is pretty much the life of homosexuals in a lot of places.
The song Born this way may be about gays, but it also mentions people of different colours, gender and how they look. It’s an anti bullying song rather than a song just for gays. I could use it to defend muslims from the rants of bigots on one day and gays the next from those very same muslims the next because the song is just about how we were all born the way we are.
AND even if we had the choice to be gay, then what is so wrong about chosing to be gay? A gay lifestyle is only dangerous if you have promiscuous sex without protection, much like a heterosexual lifestyle. HIV is rampant among homosexuals for a reason.
It’s to do with populations. Gay people are a subsect of the population which (for the most part, we are ignoring pan/bi sexual) is sexually exclusive. Roughly 1 in 20 people in a liberal western society is gay. Let us take men alone in this example (since lesbians tend to not spread HIV). If a city has a population of a million men, roughly 50,000 are gay. If one gay man is infected with HIV he is a higher percentage of the population of gays than if one straight man were infected.
Anal sex does transmit the disease faster, it has to do with the nature of linings and so on. The anal canal is not meant to facilitate penetration. Granted I know a lot of gay people who do not indulge in the practice but this is one reason for the higher spread. Bareback = bad unless you are sure about your partner. If not wear protection, the same rules apply to straight men who indulge in anal sex with women and indeed vaginal sex.
The other issue is populations. Since gay people have a smaller population the disease actually spreads quickly since each individual is more likely to come into contact with someone who has the disease and because gay people tend to frequent the same bars the disease tends to rocket through populations simply because everyone is packed in the same area.
The spread of HIV in gay people has nothing to do with being gay but being stupid and indulging in unprotected sex. The actual numbers are dropping slowly as gay people these days are a lot more strict regarding safer sex than back in the 80s and 90s.
There isn’t a gay agenda apart from “have more sex with men”. The gay agenda is a handy scapegoat because “they are kind of different”. It’s easy to mock the sissy boys. We don’t lose anything by accepting gay rights, infact we gain a lot as a society because we have broken down one more prejudice that has been holding us back.
If people bullied me for the colour of my skin, I would want someone to produce a show like Glee to defend me and encourage me. I would want people to support me and encourage me to stand up for myself.
So maybe they are born this way. Who cares what they are born as; gay people are human beings and should be encouraged to be safe not to be something they are not.
I speak of this as someone who has bullied people due to their sexuality. Most kids who do it are just young and like to mock things that are different. To any one being bullied about this who reads this, remember you aren’t alone. Whether its your choice or not you are the way you are. And you don’t have to listen to the nonsense spouted by bigots. Remember it does get better. The bullies sometimes do grow up.