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Mar 24 2011

The Silent Majority: A few good men

The university of Montana ran an event called Walk a Mile in Her Shoes. An admirable event if only for the fact that men paid $5 to walk a mile in heels, which I understand is a killer process which I can tell you from research done aged 8 with my mother’s relatively small heels. The reason for this was to raise awareness of rape, sexual assault and violence against women. 
I will raise my hands and accept that heels are designed to make women’s legs look longer and thus more attractive. And it works on me. I would be a liar if I said that it does not. But speaking from experience with female friends and a few exes, heels are murder on your feet and am genuinely impressed by the scheme which shows a sense of humour in recruiting men to do this.
If by bare minimum this event has raised the awareness of other men who were not part of the walk, I figure that if a man is willing to wear high heels to raise these issues is probably aware of them. But the intention is to raise awareness. For every step forward we move, there are forces who attempt to reduce the freedoms of women not just at home but all across the globe. It is easy to say, well atleast those women have it good in the USA and Europe when compared to say Afghanistan, however women’s rights are being reduced in the USA as we speak with the passing of various restrictions on abortions. The greater the social equality that women possess in Europe, the easier it becomes to fight for their rights abroad. It provides women out in places like India and China an example to aim for. It provides a core of feminism that can be used to campaign for rights in places like the Middle East and Afghanistan and Africa. 
However delving into this has caused me to run aground on another reef that haunts the smooth waters of internet use. The anti-feminist/male rights movement is a weird thing. It is an extension of the pick-up artist mentality, that women are simply vaginas with a combination lock and nothing more. Once you break the lock you are in, and that you’re entire look and persona should be geared towards having sex. The more and more I read the more and more disgusted I am with them and with the women who fall for their nonsense.
I hold no pretence of feminism, I have no understanding of what it is like to be a woman. So I cannot make any judgements on what to do beyond the simple hope that I don’t balls things up. I have been called out on sexist jokes in the past (stated in complete and utter sarcasm. If it was in real life as opposed to online, the person it was aimed at would have burst into flames. I have a degree in sarcasm from the Blackadder school of Mickey taking).
So ladies, your support from me is just one as a man. Of utter disgust that people assume that the majority of humanity is somehow incompetent at things and shouldn’t do certain jobs. That women themselves often cripple their own progress or that of their peers and junior by buying in to the idea that they cannot achieve anything that a man can solely due to the possession of a uterus. 
I have seen heart wrenching things in India aimed at your gender. It is a frontline of a war on sexism across the world.  I have had teachers (often women themselves) state that women cannot stand for long periods of time. I have seen a blatant disregard for educating female students in surgery and other mainly male dominated fields with the reverse being applied to male medical students in gynaecology for example. Women on my course have stated that they wouldn’t want to do surgery because it is a boy’s field. A lot of them are in the course to improve their marriage prospects (seriously).
My fight for women’s rights is that they are being reversed back by men who either don’t see the issue (I hope this is the case) or worse actively dislike women having rights as seen in my posts about Afghanistani women.
So, if men have to walk in heels for them to raise awareness of the plight of women’s rights? Then so be it. I wouldn’t mind joining you provided someone can lend me some heels. 

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  1. 1
    Iris Vander Pluym

    I have had teachers (often women themselves) state that women cannot stand for long periods of time.

    They can't. Not in those shoes!

  2. 2
    Avicenna

    I wouldn't know. As you know, if a woman falls over in heels, she may get laughed at. If a man falls over in heels, well you just have to kill yourself! (quoting hilarious executive transvestite, Eddie Izzard)

  3. 3
    Avicenna

    Oh and if you want something fun to watch. I suggest watching the movie Kinky Boots.

  4. 4
    namae nanka

    http://falserapesociety.blogspot.com/2011/03/college-men-strut-in-high-heels-to.html

    "If by bare minimum this event has raised the awareness of other men who were not part of the walk"

    as if years of media weren't enough?

    http://www.city-journal.org/2008/18_1_campus_rape.html

    "Women on my course have stated that they wouldn’t want to do surgery because it is a boy’s field. A lot of them are in the course to improve their marriage prospects (seriously). "

    Of course, the boys are there to slave away from them. Shouldn't you help these poor boys out?

    "The anti-feminist/male rights movement is a weird thing."

    Truth is a weird thing.

  5. 5
    Tit for Tat

    Hey Avi

    Maybe if we both took time walking in each others shoes then their might be an understanding of how violence affects both genders. Supporting men who were abused and feel they are sometimes getting the short end of the stick is not "anti-feminism". Its not as simple as that.

  6. 6
    Avicenna

    You can support them, the issue is that women have it worse because of the mentality of anti feminine abuse.

    Looking at domestic violence statistics, the murder rate of women by male spouses is 400% more. And if you look at the murders of male spouses by women most of the women have been abused. It's often self defence or just women having enough of the violence and killing their abuser.

    The actual abuse statistic on the most conservative numbers is that women are a 800% more likely to be abused. Numbers vary but they are inevitably men being the tiny minority.

    And note a lot of the MRM movement think being hit by a woman constitutes abuse no matter what, cataloguing that as violence. The statistics are heavily doctored. It's far far worse for women than for men. The Men's Rights Movement simply are whining.

  7. 7
    Tit for Tat

    The Men's Rights Movement simply are whining.(Avi)

    I agree to a point, but many beefs arent just about DV.

  8. 8
    Avicenna

    Many beefs are just "about how women aren't interested in sexist pigs". And the whole concept of game is "utterly vile".

  9. 9
    Tit for Tat

    Hey Avi

    Maybe if we both took time walking in each others shoes then their might be an understanding of how violence affects both genders. Supporting men who were abused and feel they are sometimes getting the short end of the stick is not "anti-feminism". Its not as simple as that.

  10. 10
    Iris Vander Pluym

    I have had teachers (often women themselves) state that women cannot stand for long periods of time.

    They can't. Not in those shoes!

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