I met James Croft at Freethought Festival, and he kept tweeting at me that he was changing his talk in response to something I’d said. I have no idea whether he ended up doing any of that, but it is a fascinating talk either way.
Using someone else’s language to speak to them about our interests is often viewed as manipulative. I don’t doubt that it can be, but it is also what we do when our intent is nothing more nefarious than putting someone at ease. Similarly, we work to speak to their concerns when we simply want to not bore someone. Is what James is talking about any different?